Rather than trying to understand people as computers, what if we reversed the analogy - not in order to wonder whether computers really think or feel (what sort of person wonders in this way about other people?!). When one sets that question aside, the most interesting difference between human agent-perceiving-deliberators and their silicon counterparts is the relative poverty of the world in which the latter live.
But how do we enrich the worlds of computers? How do we teach them to handle that enrichment? Then again, how do we enrich our world? How do we make sure future generations, or distant neighbours, can handle the enrichment?
How, in other words, do we "raise" "good" computers? How do we make computers so that they can be "well-raised"?